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Being Positive – Even When It’s Difficult A Guest Post by Christine Callahan-Oke

Gratitude in word collage

Gratitude in word collage


I was shocked and saddened to learn about the passing of Dr. Wayne Dyer on August 30th. He was a shining light for so many, and I’m deeply grateful he chose to share his wisdom with all of us while he was here. It was through him and other spiritual teachers like Louise Hay that I learned I can choose my perspective regardless of the situation at hand. And there is such power in that.

I’ve always been a fairly positive person, even before Wayne Dyer’s teachings. It’s one of the things that comes naturally to me; for some reason I tend to focus on the light rather than the darkness.

Some people are baffled by positivity, believing that if you’re positive, you walk through life with a crazy smile on your face, refusing to believe that anything bad ever happens. But that’s not true.

Positivity is a choice. I look for the good around me, and sometimes I have to look REALLY hard. Yes, there are awful situations – I’ve experienced some. There are people and relationships that trigger the worst in us – I’ve experienced those too. And yes, economies undergo horrible downturns and people experience senseless tragedies that cause pain to run unfathomably deep.

I try to find a flicker of light in it all, however faint.

What does a positive person do, though, when they can’t find the good in something?

I just learned that a friend’s 8-year-old daughter has leukemia. She is one of the sweetest, smartest girls I’ve ever met, and before she became ill, their family had already undergone a number of devastating, life-altering events.

So to be honest, I’m not yet sure where the fragment of light is in this situation.

Maybe it’s in the fact that we’re reminded to STOP and focus on the people and things that are really important to us. Or maybe it’s in the opportunity for us to get out of our own dramas and reach out and help as best we can.

But the question troubling me right now is… what is the bright side of this for my friend’s daughter? And for my friend?

I don’t have an answer.

One of my favourite Wayne Dyer quotes is, “If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”

I do know this: if we choose to look only at the darkness, we’ll be certain to see only darkness. If we allow outside circumstances to determine our perspective, we give up our power.

Turn your face toward the sun and the shadows will fall behind you.” ~ Maori Proverb

I choose to turn my face to the sun, and I will continue to look for a fragment of light for that amazing young girl. Because I know if I don’t look for it, I won’t find it.

To me, being positive isn’t about denying that darkness exists. It’s about doing what we can to make our way through the darkness – crawling if necessary – to the light.


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