In holding the soul and embracing oneness
Can one be steadfast, without straying?
In concentrating the energy and reaching relaxation
Can one be like an infant?
In cleaning away the worldly view
Can one be without imperfections?
In loving the people and ruling the nation
Can one be without manipulation?
In the heavenly gate’s opening and closing
Can one hold to the feminine principle?
In understanding clearly all directions
Can one be without intellectuality?

Bearing it, rearing it
Bearing without possession
Achieving without arrogance
Raising without domination
This is called the Mystic Virtue

                                                                  Lao Tzu

Verse Ten asks us to consider the question, is it possible to embrace our synchronicity with the Tao (The Great Oneness) without losing our sense of uniqueness and self?

As I write these words, I can feel the feminist in me formulating an argument that would caution against losing any part of your identity to a group or collective. However, if I try to connect with my Yin Energy (Feminine Energy), I intuitively know that I can be accommodating without yielding.

To accommodate without yielding that is; to be able to connect without being taken over. There is both a beauty and a strength embedded in that concept. It honors the importance of the individual while acknowledging that the union of souls enriches us all.

This conclusion can only come from viewing this question with your heart. Once you find the courage to live with an open heart, the first thing you may notice is that you share so much with others. There are so many common denominators: a need to belong, a need for love, battling against fear, living in hope, the need to care and to be cared for by another.

The sense of connectedness that can come from accessing your compassion can actually fortify you rather than make you feel a sense of sacrifice.  It is a sense of belonging and a knowing that the whole is indeed, greater than the sum of its parts.

Compassion will fill those spaces in each of us once held by judgment and slowly replace it with patience and understanding. To truly have a sense of yourself, allow the Tao to flow in you and through you. Understand that who you really are cannot be separated from all that surrounds you. We are all part of the Whole. See and accept the magnificence of this. Accommodate without yielding.

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